I know this might sound crazy, but I believe that our lives are like candles. Our lives are molded, shaped, light, different colors (metaphorically), etc. I think we should start recognizing that we shape on our own lives sometimes. I grew up in a family where I constantly got picked on from everything from my weight, to my thoughts and ideas, to the friends I chose, etc. And guess what? I started to constantly pick on everything I did as well? My environment shaped some of my views of myself. I would count down the days and years where I could finally be free and actually be happy.
I always thought that through it all I loved myself because I would only allow my family to talk down on me. But, when I went away to college and had a lot of time alone because I only had like 2 friends and I focused on school. I realized how messed up I was. Alone time really does make you think about who you are as a person and who do you want to be. I started to self analyze myself so much about everything especially my weight. I was actually a nice frame and even smaller in highschool (now that I looked back on photos) but I was always attacked by family members and I realized how those thoughts always stayed in my mind as I got older. I was not really loving myself and allowed others to shape my outlook of myself. I was tolerating my weight and appearance. I knew I was intelligent but not as intelligent as I do now. Words do actually hurt especially they come from people that you value.
Now as I am older, I started to light my own candle. I realized that just because family critizes you does not make it right. I am an amazing person and need to stop analyzing myself on what I could do better and praise myself on what I do thats great. We should light our own candle and do things according to what we want in life and empower ourselves. We say we love ourselves but do we really? Do we allow certain things to take over when we really don't want to.
Want to quit your job and switch to a different career? Want to break up with someone? Want to buy yourself new earrings as a random gift? Want to grow your beard out? I say light your candle and travel throughout the path of darkness. Darkness is usually the negative rim of our world with negative people and unneccesary drama. I say light your own candle and do what you want and begin to value yourself. You are amazing and deserve happiness, a peace life full of self love and surrounded by people that actually love you.
We might be molded according to our society and parents. But at the same time, when a candle is ready to be lit or changed because of how we want to change our lives -- we should do what makes us happy. We always forget how beautiful living can actually be. Our lives are like candles and can take form to anything and can be used for something good or bad according to the person who is handling the candle (life). We need to start remembering we are in charge of our lives and we can burn out the candle and stop making certain decisions or letting negativity cloud us. You have to believe in yourself. I can tell someone a million times how precious their lives are but if they do not believe it themselves. You have to believe in your life and believe in living for oneself. Who is ready to light their own candle?
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