I have a love and hate relationship with New York. I know... how can someone dislike NY or even like it for that matter? I am one of those introvert city girls that had lived in New Year for 9 months. I know you're wondering what is an introverted city girl? That will be another post for another time. Thats one of the reasons I left New York lol. New York is New York and it had me on a rollarcoaster ride the entire time I was living there. My reason for moving to New York is because I wanted to grow... I wanted to be a different Isaly. When I was a junior in college, I had told my therapist that I always wanted to grow with every year. After I graduated college, I made the decision to move to New York for graduate school. It definitely made me change within the 9 months of living there.
I had went there one person and now I can't even remember the old Isaly. I think that my life has been constant change but living some place where I knew no one and moved there willing to change made all the difference in the world to this new Isaly. New York made me shed many layers of myself that I was trying to change but wasn't ready to let go of. My flesh was scared to change -- I can admit that. But, that is the hate part of my relationship with New York because it was forcing me to change the aspects I wanted to change anyways. Here is my list of things I wish I knew before moving to New York but glad that I went and grew for the better.
These tips can be used for anyone moving to a new place alone but I realized that you are never alone as long as you have yourself. I am proud of myself to taking on the city and I want you guys to have a taste of what I experienced there.
Even though there is millions of people in New York, you will only make a few close friends. Not saying that you can't make a lot of associates... The rest are just people you will meet or walk past and will see again at a random place but never know them. Its weird, but a lot of people know each other in one way or another. You will not initially have your life like an episode of Friends, Sex & the City, Living Single or Gossip Girl.
It smells everywhere. There is trash everywhere. You will definitely want to take a shower after taking on the city. LOL.
You should get a unlimited metro train card -- it will be your best friend.
Even if you visit the city a few times before moving there. It is nothing like living there, waking up there and going to sleep at 4am because the city's energy keeps you awake. But ironically not everything stays open late.
Do not be surprised if you get lost on the train, even if you have lived there for months. Do not break down and cry if you get lost one day traveling and you end up taking a train in the wrong direction. It happens to everyone, even people that have lived there for years.
There are some people that are nice and tell you directions but most won't.
There will be crowded trains at different times of the day. Don't be shocked one day when you are the on the train and you are squished between many people. Just take a shower when you get home for sure (:
Find your favorite places in the city, so when you are having a bad day -- those places can make you feel better.
The city is a great place but it is not all it's hyped up to be when you are living there having to do school and work. You have to make time for fun.
Find free places to go and join meet up groups. You have to step out of your comfort zone.
New York has a lot of random rainy days, so always carry an umbrella and have rain boots at your home. Compare Chicago and New York because they have similar weather.
You can live off New York pizza, especially since they have $1 slices. But, make sure to always keep water handy.
There were not lying about New York being expensive. Make sure to save...save...save. So, one day you won't look at your account and wonder where did all of your money go? Lol.
Your navigation will get you lost walking around at night. So, don't travel alone.
Speaking of walking, you better spend a good amount of time picking out the right shoes!
New Yorkers don't call New York City ... New York City. They call New York City ... New York. They'll say specifically a borough (area or mini city) depending on what questions you ask.
You will meet people from so many different cultures and it will be a very cool experience.
You are not considered a "real" new yorker until you have been living there for 7-10 years (or born there obviously).
You will do things you never thought you would do before.
Some people will never leave new york and it's nothing wrong with you if you do.
Time Square is full of tourists -- a lot of New Yorkers just go there for work or random shopping but its not a big deal once you're there. Its just a place full of advertisements but is quite beautiful at night.
New York will change you but it's all about how you react to the change will make it a good or bad experience. You will realize many things about yourself and you will have the decision to stay the same or grow.
I enjoyed my time in New York, but I knew when it was my time to leave. I had went there and accomplished what I needed to accomplish. Do you consider yourself a city person? Have you always lived where you live now?
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